If she really loves him, then she can wait a few years, can't she. He's not going to be anywhere near emotionally mature enough to deal with what a 28 year old woman needs, no matter how grown up he is.

I can understand that she thinks she loves him, but she should go to jail for breaking the law. Love does not mean that you have to have sex, the end

The way I see it is like this, if a teen is wanting to have sex, then boy or girl they should be able to have sex with whoever they should choose. Mind you as I say that, I also am not advocating any teen have sex before 18.

Age of Consent laws are arbitrary and baseless. There's no scientific evidence that any detrimental effect is caused by consensual relationships between teens and adults, only from non-consensual ones which should fall under standard rape laws.

In some states/countries what this woman and boy did would be perfectly legal.

I'm sure in some countries you could find it common to have a sexual relationship with an 8 year old, that is hardly an effective argument for it being acceptable.

Assuming you buy into the argument that consensual sex between adults and children is somehow ok, do you bother drawing that line anywhere? You said yourself, age of consent laws are arbitrary. So what if he were 13? 11? 8?...

Is this NOT something we want to er on the very massively safe side caution. You said you wouldn't advocate sex before someone is 18. Why?... i suspect it's because in your mind they arn't emotionally, mentally, or even physically prepared for what it is they 'want'.

Niiiiice!

NNNIIICE!

Wait - what the fuck is a 14 year old doing with a baby-sitter anyway? He's in fucking high school!

One of those rare cases where the victim will go on to masturbate furiously thinking about that time they were molested.

The whole double standard thing sucks but physically men reach a sexually peak at very different ages. The 28 year old is near hers and the 14 year old is coming up on his. If it's reversed, the young girl isn't even near her peak and the guy is way past. That is why people say it is different. Of course a 14 year old guy wants it. Nature says so.

I also agree with gunrock, he's in fucking high school...

>> ^Januari:
Why?... i suspect it's because in your mind they arn't emotionally, mentally, or even physically prepared for what it is they 'want'.


To be honest I couldn't care less about their mental, emotional or physical preparedness to have sex. Post pubescent teens are physically able to procreate, their mental and emotional development has little to do with their physical readiness. Mental and emotional maturity occur at different rates for different people, so it's entirely possible that given the right up bringing a 14 year old could easily be completely prepared to engage in a sexual relationship with anyone of their choosing, just as it is as likely for a 28 year old to have had their mental and emotional upbringing stunted so that they are better able to connect with a juvenile than with other adults. This is why age of consent laws are ridiculous, every argument against an adult/teen relationship can be shifted to a mature adult/immature adult relationship, negative relationships are harmful and damaging, while positive relationships are beneficial, regardless of the ages of the parties involved.

My objection to teens having sex is because at that age they're not yet responsible for their own lives. Their parents are. It's out of respect for their parents that I don't think they should be having sex. You're a teen, you have sex with another teen, a pregnancy occurs, who's going to be taking care of that baby? Grandma and Grampa, that's who or worse your neighbors taxes. My view is that until you're fully capable of taking care of yourself and a child with no assistance from family or the state, you shouldn't be breeding. That goes for adults as well.

The double standard doesn't exist from the 14 year old's mental capacity (which the female host argues). It stems from the physical capacities of 14 year old males/females vs. the physical capacities of 28 year old males/females.

28 year old male having sex with a 14 year old girl --> The male could easily overpower the girl physically, either forcing her to have sex or physically intimidating her in to it. Sure, she might be mentally capable of "wanting it", but the possibility of the man overpowering her is almost always existent in this relationship, putting the girl at a huge risk of vulernability. That's why she's protected more in this part of the double standard.

28 year old female having sex with a 14 year old boy --> The female, in this case, isn't likely to overpower the 14 year old boy physically, nor have the physical presence to coerce or intimidate him in to a physical relationship. Though still morally wrong (I believe), the situation is closer to a consensual relationship than the other because there is less of a likely chance that there is an issue of physical harm or power play being exercised here.

This is, essentially, two different standards for each situation, hence a widely accepted double standard in our society, largely stemming from a physical dominance potential from the adult towards the child.

Wow, I agree with everything on this thread so far. 1000 points for everyone.

If all you have is a "gut instinct," that means stop the cameras and figure out how to express yourself coherently.

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14 year old has siblings, I guess that explains the babysitter.

I dont think adults doing kids is ever acceptable, however much the kid wants it (ridiculous even typing that), he might be totally into getting it on, but I don't for a second think he is ready to have a 28 year old professing her love for him. Lots of 28 year old guys arent ready for that!

C4 in the U.K. did a documentary about this topic, boys who were "initiated" by older women, moms friends or whatever, and as grown ups they all said it messed them up for years.

I dont buy the sexual peak theory anymore either, I've heard lots of docs and sex therapists rubbishing the idea in the last couple of years. Apparently it stems from the Kinsey report which was measuring orgasm frequency, and teenage boys do like beating that meat and they tied in a sexist angle that it wasnt acceptable for women to orgasm outside of a marriage. Or something.

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We need to track this boy down.. and give him the Luckiest Boy in America Medal.

I would NEVER EVER let a 14 year old boy anywhere near my baby maker. Period.


I don't even want to be in the same room with any teenager.

Physically, I see no problem with this. I mean, what 14 year old boy would like to have sex with an attractive 28 year old woman?
But emotionally, the kid is still a kid and the woman is using sex to manipulate him into doing whatever she wants. She tells him she "loves" him but she would probably just use him and throw him away when he was older and go find another kid. Sick.

^So what? Guys aren't generally destroyed by a failed relationship, and he's only 14/15/16. If she dumps him and moves on, he still has a good two decades to find his life-long mate. Besides, he'd be a fucking legend at school, so it wouldn't be too had to meet new people.

I don't have anything really valid to add, except that the 14 year old boy deep down inside me is screaming "COME ON! DON'T RUIN MY GAME!"

choggie was molested and look what he became.