I kinda feel like portraying men as rapists is a pretty big way that the media fails men?

Admittedly, there's surely some room for debate as to whether the video you described portrays men or women as worse, but I think we can agree it doesn't do either any favors. The man in the video is portrayed as self-centered, inconsiderate, and generally a pretty shitty person. The women are definitely portrayed poorly as well, but I'm not convinced that the way they're portrayed is substantially worse than the way the man is portrayed.

Why is everyone more concerned about the portrayal of the women in that video, when the portrayal of the man is completely disgusting as well? I think both should be equally concerning.