bareboards2 says... We all have wounds. I was certainly pissed off about mine for a very long time. Took me decades to process. I do have sympathy and empathy. At some point, though, it is up to us to work through our pain and stop projecting it out onto others. Isn't it? Our personal responsibility? That is a core moral value of mine. Personal responsibility. BSR said: Sounds like resentment to me. Dad was probably unemployed for whatever reason and now he has to make him responsible for not getting Legos for his birthday. It colors his whole world. Makes him the man he is now.