Except Dan instead answered, "How can I make the sex event last longer?", which is a different question entirely. The audience member wanted the answer to, "How can I keep pumping my partner without orgasming so quick?" (delay ejaculation during intercourse). Any idiot knows that if you stop the intercourse and do other stuff that you won't cum. This was no help at all.

>> ^messenger:

Any idiot knows that if you stop the intercourse and do other stuff that you won't cum. This was no help at all.


Well, at least there's finally an off chance that she will

Nein! Sex is from the second the penis enters the vagina to the three seconds later when it's pulled out!

>> ^messenger:

Except Dan instead answered, "How can I make the sex event last longer?", which is a different question entirely. The audience member wanted the answer to, "How can I keep pumping my partner without orgasming so quick?" (delay ejaculation during intercourse). Any idiot knows that if you stop the intercourse and do other stuff that you won't cum. This was no help at all.


Well maybe what he's pointing out is that there is no need to last for ages through penetration alone if you concentrate on doing other stuff in between. Anyway, unless a woman is lucky enough to be able to orgasm through penetration, it gets pretty old pretty quick. Maybe that's just me though

Maybe he is, but that's not the question he asked. He asked how to last longer. "Ages" wasn't in the question.

You and Dan have both made some assumptions about the guy asking. He might already be great in bed and fully confident in himself and his ability to please his partner, and still want to last longer. Maybe he'd like to be able to enjoy several minutes of intercourse, rather than three strokes before blowing his wad. Maybe his partner would like to get pounded longer. Methods for delaying orgasm is a valid question, and deserves a straight answer with no assumptions made about his overall performance or self-esteem.>> ^alien_concept:


Well maybe what he's pointing out is that there is no need to last for ages through penetration alone if you concentrate on doing other stuff in between. Anyway, unless a woman is lucky enough to be able to orgasm through penetration, it gets pretty old pretty quick. Maybe that's just me though

Weed increases both pleasure and stamina.

The longer you go without cumming, the longer you can go without cumming. That is, the more days (weeks, months, etc.) you have between ejaculations (nocturnal emissions included!), the more stamina you'll have in bed, to the point where, you just won't cum unless you want to.

>> ^messenger:

Maybe he is, but that's not the question he asked. He asked how to last longer. "Ages" wasn't in the question.
You and Dan have both made some assumptions about the guy asking. He might already be great in bed and fully confident in himself and his ability to please his partner, and still want to last longer. Maybe he'd like to be able to enjoy several minutes of intercourse, rather than three strokes before blowing his wad. Maybe his partner would like to get pounded longer. Methods for delaying orgasm is a valid question, and deserves a straight answer with no assumptions made about his overall performance or self-esteem.>> ^alien_concept:

Well maybe what he's pointing out is that there is no need to last for ages through penetration alone if you concentrate on doing other stuff in between. Anyway, unless a woman is lucky enough to be able to orgasm through penetration, it gets pretty old pretty quick. Maybe that's just me though



Yes the writer could have been asking for any one of those reasons you gave, although I think you're being a tad pedantic. Let's face it, usually when a guy is worried about not lasting it's because he feels either embarrassed at his performance and/or is worrying how his partner feels about it.

And even if he wasn't asking for that reason, Dan Savage has never been one for just replying to the individual specifically. He uses the questions as a springboard, so that he can give his advice on the more widespread and common issues about sex and relationships that plague so many people. Then effectively he has helped maybe hundreds of people, rather than just one.

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>> ^Trancecoach:

The longer you go without cumming, the longer you can go without cumming. That is, the more days (weeks, months, etc.) you have between ejaculations (nocturnal emissions included!), the more stamina you'll have in bed, to the point where, you just won't cum unless you want to.

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That goes against my own experience enough that on first reading I figured you either forgot the sarcasm checkbox, or there would be a ScoobyDoo ending where somebody would rip a facemask off of you and reveal one of those hardcore Catholic "ejaculation for procreation ONLY!" people.

But putting all that aside, if that method works for you then more power to ya!

@MilkmanDan yeah... that is seriously backwards to the way most guys work. If you want to last longer, just ejaculate before sex. Then you'll have more stamina during sex.

If you haven't cum for a long time before sex then the normal experience is that you'll have a quick trigger and come very quickly.

Does that mean for you the more you cum the quicker you can then cum again? That sounds freaky!

>> ^gwiz665:

Nein! Sex is from the second the penis enters the vagina to the three seconds later when it's pulled out!


This has pretty much always been my experience as well.

...wait, what?

Just do what that Michael Gruber did, he lost his in a motorcycle accident so he got two penises custom built from "a mixture of skin, bone and other tissues from his own body".

If it's made from bone, it's a win-win situation, the only limiting factor on your sex would be your mitochondria.

>> ^ghark:

Just do what that Michael Gruber did, he lost his in a motorcycle accident so he got two penises custom built from "a mixture of skin, bone and other tissues from his own body".
If it's made from bone, it's a win-win situation, the only limiting factor on your sex would be your mitochondria.


Counter-intuitive result...

http://www.smh.com.au/articles/2005/03/14/1110649095384.html?from=top5&oneclick=true

>> ^Trancecoach:

The longer you go without cumming, the longer you can go without cumming. That is, the more days (weeks, months, etc.) you have between ejaculations (nocturnal emissions included!), the more stamina you'll have in bed, to the point where, you just won't cum unless you want to.


It's kind of the opposite for me... hair trigger and all that...

You must constantly think about run over kittens.

Everyone knows that the best way to prolong orgasm is to just picture Mike Huckabee playing the base. (DUH):

Just remember... Mario always comes first.