Hey that first woman was the Nutrition with Natalie person.

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"I get hit on a lot."

Hmmm, you're at a bar, probably dressed like a skank, and you're not ugly. What a shock that guys would hit on you.

I don't use any pick-up lines....I sit at the bar at happy-hour, and bring a few magazines, like Sassybella, Vogue or Fashion UK, with a dirty martini...and wait-
they come to me

Female Turn On = Flash A Fat Wallet.

Girls should get it in their heads. A guy scoping you out doesn't have 'getting to know you' on his mind. If he does. He's going to want to do your nails.. not you.

I think Choggies' got the right idea. My understanding is ladies want to feel like they're coming to you, even if you've done some work to tempt them over.

They hold the cards, and find it repellent if you don't respect that. Its science.

How to turn off a guy.... lift both your eyebrows up and constantly talk in a snobby condescending voice like the chick with the flower tattoo.

Similar to the "beautiful people" video, we have a lacking cross section of women. The "goth", the "intelligent but humble", the "I'm pretty at bars but not SLEAZY" and some other inconsequentials. That one girl couldn't explain her ideal come on, because she doesn't even know it herself, and is still single for a reason...

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Similar to Choggie - I've heard that just sitting at a bar doing a crossword is good.

Community websites are a good place to get to know people.

There may even be a few Sift romances ... [cue loveboat theme]

The LoooveSift sooon will be making another run...

The LoooveSift promises something for everyone ...

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And how is this not in *femme?

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While they're a good place to find a sex partner or dance/drink yourself into oblivion, bars are not usually where you're going to connect with someone in a meaningful way, so you could say these women have unrealistic expectations of their encounters there.

On the other hand, I wonder why we've lost the art of conversation. Why are people so afraid to be themselves, to show some vulnerability by admitting that they're looking for someone to connect with, that they're in need of some company or affection, or whatever it is that drives them out seeking?

Women crave emotional connections. There's nothing to warm to, with a line like "hey baby, you look so hot". Something real, on the other hand, could work wonders.

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Woman always say they they don't like pick-up lines. But men are usually expected to break the ice - and at that awkward moment, anything that comes out of their mouth is considered a pick-up line and open to female ridicule.

I'd like to hear an example of something you could say to a stranger of the opposite sex in the bar that wouldn't be taken as a pick-up line.

It can be hard to have something real to say to a person you know nothing about. In the context of a bar, a guy might try to use the shared environment as inspiration (commenting on the place/music/chosen drink etc) or might try to explain why, as a complete stranger, he has just approached her (e.g be honest about his appreciation of her looks).

It sounds like a few of the women were against/offended by the idea of being "picked up" itself. Of someone approaching them with interest to a sexual encounter. If thats not what they would like/value then it's not surprising that a place that has become culturally associated with that has led to many unappreciated advances. As dag notes, men may be expected to break the ice, but as in the example choggie gave, allowing them to feel comfortable with approaching you gets past all this.If they approach then its on their terms, and so will be something they feel comfortable about, and free of the "distasteful predatorialness of a guy approaching for a pickup". No double standards there atall.

That all said, I've never desired casual pickup sex (just dosent appeal at all), and so have never tried such lines successfully or otherwise, and I dont tend to hang out in bars as I also dont drink, so if im there its because im with friends, and not "cruising". As persephone noted, bars are not ideal if you want a conversation/emotional connection, so I'd be much more inclined to go to places other than bars to meet people in a real way.

Not sure where though. Maybe when i move I'll find some.

@dag. You could try "Hi, I'm Dag. You look familiar. Haven't I seen you on videosift?"

This is the stupidest video I have ever seen. I swear to god. A woman will see something that she wants and all of that bullshit will fly right out the window.

^ Were you thinking along the lines of this?

The amount I trust a women is inversely proportional to the distance I can throw her.

^troll

ryjkyj, even if a guy was really good looking, if a woman with smarts is approached with "hey baby, you look hot", he won't get far.

^obviously not very intelligent and probably has feminine features.

I've known an awful lot of people who met their mate in pubs/bars. I've also had conversations with guys in bars that were just charming and wonderful.

Personally, the best pickup technique tried on me in a bar has to do with dancing well (I just love the swing dance scene in Swingers).

And, personally, I vote for ignoring the trolls. Well, also in remembering who they are so I know to ignore them permanently (but then, I was the only person inthe whole sift who was in favor of an ignore feature).

^ sometimes I'm reminded that I'm jaded
Unfortunately, identifying the fact isn't enough to change it.

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Depends on your economic status and cultural background.

If they're from an urban setting with low economic income, the common mating ritual would consist of 'booty shaking' and 'i'm rich byootch!' type of brandishing would prove more successful.

argh, whats with woman #2 scrapy voice. how does she make that sound? like a soft gargling of the throat.

Very bad keying ...

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