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KimzSendai says...

I've lived in the US since 2013 ... I'm OK now with instantly "translating" to miles and feet and pounds and gallons in colloquial speech (at work we all use metric because I'm in science and tech with international collaboration), but Temperature??? I'm still in Celsius and can't adapt seem to adapt.

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KimzSendai says...

A caring attempt to make someone's day better never starts with a command to smile. This has been written about much more eloquently than I'm about to by lots of people (including Abigail Van Buren or 'Dear Abby') but here I go.

When a passing stranger is told to smile what is being communicated is 'I want to see you looking more attractive and I don't give a shit about what you're actually feeling'. They are strangers, there is know way to know what the unsmiling person's day has been like or what has just happened to them (although if it's a woman alone on a NYC street - probably harassment)

So yes, the guy who told the woman in the video to smile was heaping it on like the rest of them.

newtboy said:

What about the man who saw that 'body language' as her having a bad day and told her to smile? To me, that's not harassment in the least, (well, honestly, most of this isn't, but I'm a friendly guy who does greet people, of both sexes, in passing...but then I live in the boonies, not NY) it's seeing a person having a bad day and making an attempt (although a pretty sad one) to make them smile, no?
I think if this kind of thing feels like sexual harassment to some, they really should not live in a large city where inappropriate behavior is the norm.

10 Hours of Walking in NYC as a Woman

KimzSendai says...

Would he say the same thing on a busy street to a man waking by with no interest in him?

If the answer is 'YES' then a) I can't believe he's not hoarse given the number of people one passes in a given day in NYC and b)it's not an example of gender-specific inappropriateness... but c) it's still anti-social because the body language (which men read all the time) clearly indicates a lack of interest in being stopped. These are the streets of a subdivision or Iowa City down town (don't get me wrong, I love Iowa City). Most people in New York to not greet random strangers in the street.

The exception to this is people whose jobs require approaching strangers - you know beggars, street vendors, promoters, and those guys who solicit for charity. Please notice that no one who might fall into those categories were included in the video, despite the fact that in NYC she definitely walked past all 3.

If the answer is 'NO' (IE he didn't 'greet' the disinterested camera man who walked by first but did 'greet' the disinterested woman) then the comment is both anti-social AND gender targeted. He's targeting a woman he doesn't know, when every ounce of her body language is saying that she doesn't want to be bothered. That's not friendly, that's more likely a attempt (conscious or subconscious) to exercise power over the woman walking by.

cason said:

Okay.. I get the majority of these, but is "good morning," "how are you," and "have a nice evening" harassment now too?

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KimzSendai says...

You know what would convince me that what I think is a square is in fact a circle (55:58)?

Give me a mathematical model for both of them. Then do a fit (least squares?) to both models.

If it turns out that the circle is a better fit - then it's clearly a circle.

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KimzSendai says...

@Hive13 I'm kind of hoping that you're joking, because seriously, her drinking is not at issue here, the assault isn't even really at issue here, at issue here was someone (the defense lawyers, and the wording of the ruling out of the Jefferson District Court) of trying to tell the victim of sexual assault that she shouldn't talk about it. There's enough silencing happening around the issue of sexual assault without giving it the sanction of law.

If you want to talk about the assault, I think it should be fairly obvious that you can't give consent while unconscious (the sources I've read say that the assault happened after she passed out). If someone is too wasted to know what's up, then consent cannot be given, and the other partner would have to be really messed up to think that sort of behavior was OK. She didn't place the boys in that position, the boys did that to themselves - by assaulting her and taking pictures.

Slagging on this particular teen for doing something that is extremely common looks like an attempt to shame the victim. If you want to go moan about drinking at parties, find a different conversation -- here's one
http://videosift.com/video/Drinking-Culture-David-Mitchell-s-Soapbox

It's these sort of attacks on character that help a tiny number of men get away with a large number of sexual assaults, because their victims don't come forward (because of fear of being ostracized), aren't believed (you were drunk), or aren't prosecuted (it's just boys being assholes).

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KimzSendai says...

Exactly, @bareboards2 , it's likely that we aren't talking about an epidemic of rapists, but an epidemic of rape. 95% of the rapes may be by serial rapists [1], greatly multiplying the effect of their behavior. It's the current system that encourages a cover-up and non-prosecution of the crime that permits the rapes to continue so that the victims of rape so prevalent.

If you have access to a university's journal database - look up:
1. Reports of Rape Reperpetration by Newly Enlisted Male Navy Personnel by Stephanie K. McWhorter, et al., published in Violence and Victims, Vol, 24, No. 2, pg 204-218, 2009 (McWhorter 2009)

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