^You want to be frozen in carbonite with DystopiHan Solo? Kinky!

i'll add a myth: only men watch porn

and while I'm at it, why not recommend some good porn? Check out the movies by Tanya Hyde, maybe start with "house of shame" http://www.imdb.com/name/nm0405025/

www.cupido.no calls tanya hyde the best porn from a male director (his real name is trevor watson)

Stylistically his films are over the top, almost borderline surreal sometimes. lots of fetishes and kinky stuff, but always with lots of humor and enthusiasm and FUN.
Tanya Hyde is far far from that crap "bj, then fuck here and then there, and then come in the face" type of porn. British quality stuff

>> ^thepinky:
You've got a good point there, but I still think that any type of porn is ojectification. (I'm going to talk about men and porn designed to please men, although I know it goes both ways.) Women have to work harder and harder these days to please their partners because men jack off to porn so much that sex is becoming less and less an act of love and intimacy. When discussing porn, I have had two of my guyfriends tell me that porn made them look at women differently. The more porn they watched, the less they cared about the minds and opinions of the women they were interested in and the more they cared about their bodies and how good they were in bed. I've seen porn tear marriages apart because it can be seen as a type of infidelity. A girlfriend of mine told me that her husband "had sex" more often and "made love" less often the more addicted he got to porn. But many men argue that porn ISN'T infidelity because women in porn mean nothing to them emotionally. In other words, they are just OBJECTS. Thus, objectification. Yes, the women are exploiting something they shouldn't be exploiting.
To say "enjoy your bodies while you can" is a hedonistic principle, in my opinion. We ought to be very careful with our bodies lest we allow our appetites to get out of hand and we do something immoral (molestation, rape, infidelity, etc.). I know you agree with that. We're really just arguing about the degree to which we control our bodies.
I'm neither sexually repressed nor frustrated. I'm extremely happy with my sex life.


If you think this is porn, I think you really have issues.

The reason we don't have men with sliver ding dongs attached to their penises dancing around is because the male body is ugly.

The female body on the other hand looks like it was designed by Italians, all curves and smooth lines. While the male body looks like it was stamp pressed in some oppressive Eastern European nation trying desperately to join the EU. Both men and women enjoy seeing female form more then the male form, because the female form represents beauty in the arts, and in very essence it is beautiful.

A celebration of that form is not pornographic.

Burlesque is about fantasy, its art, its about the exploration of carnal desires not their fulfillment. Pornography on the other hand is not, its literally about the physical act of sex, its the act more then the fantasy itself.

This feeds into the way carnal desires work on a psychological level.

We enjoy watching erotic films, romantic novels, romantic movies or stuff like this because there is a framework of fantasy at work, we create an emotional resonance that leads into the sexual act. Most of the people in that audience watch a show like this and go home and fuck like rabbits. Because it feeds that fantasy, we look at our partner and want to do all kinds of kinky things to them.

That's why Victoria Secret sales are so strong.

People get bored of making 'love' and intimacy, because it doesn't work like Disney in the real world. You need to create spice in your sex life, love and intimacy is about the first year or so of being in love, after that you need to work to have a good sex life, sexual fulfillment is just as much a issue of a relationship as communication.

Psychologically when we are with our partners we often have a very different view of them then the reality of them, in essence we desire them for a fantasy perspective we possess of them linked to created concept we have based on time spent together, desire, interests and that unquantifiable aspect of love. Psychologists assume this is necessary for monotony and the actual act of sex.

Others enjoy pornography because its the fulfillment of that fantasy being fast forward devoid of emotion to the act of sex itself. However without a level of fantasy the act of sex degrades to one of physical perversion. How many times have you seen porn or been fucking and had a Epiphany of oh my god this looks horrid. Because it does. Its a very animalistic base act of fulfillment. We dress it up alot with all kinds of concepts but at the end of the day it's as raw as watching two dogs humping. This is why porn has to create some basic level of fantasy, even if its crude and stupid, the girl next door, the frisky teacher, the plumber and so on and so forth. You will find that the best porn actually is more erotica then porn.

With regards to your idea that porn tears apart marriages.

Its a ridiculous concept. I personally believe in our modern, fast paced, everything at your finger tips, your needs met by company X world both men and women have unrealistic expectations of their partners.

Women desire heroic characters with a soft inner shell that can make chicken soup for you. Men desire a slave worker cook whose a harlot in the bedroom.

Pornography is not infidelity, its the release of sexual desire that is persistent in the man nature, by nature we are built to fuck as many things as possible to seed our DNA code. That's nature and God designed. I seen alot of couples deal with this in the long term by fantasizing or spicing up their sex lives, they love one another but that initial spark and heat is gone, something they need to work at to get back. Going to burlesque shows or strip clubs together or watching soft core or filming themselves or dressing up or kinky things and eventually exploring their own sexuality. There is reason swingers clubs and the such exist, because people sometimes love to be together but seek to explore themselves sexually or other people with their partners.

At the same time I have seen many people being paralyzed by sex, being utterly frighted of it, because of some silly indoctrination they received when they were younger. Unable to satisfy themselves and eventually their partners because they were essentially sexually suppressed.

I could go on and on but I really think your concepts of what is porn and sexuality is based around misjudged postulations of a religious framework. We lived in several cycles of religious control of sexuality all of them showed it is a facade that tried to suppress what is essentially our nature. While sex and or booze isn't so much an issue now, its more about homosexuality which is basically love.

Remember Alfred Kinsey's research and work changed the way we looked at sexuality in the 1930s enabling the 60s sexual revolution, which was connected with free love, female empowerment, and the coming of the pill.

In 1935, Kinsey delivered a lecture to a faculty discussion group at Indiana University, his first public discussion of the topic, wherein he attacked the "widespread ignorance of sexual structure and physiology" and promoted his view that "delayed marriage" (that is, delayed sexual experience) was psychologically harmful.

Hi kp,
posted some more kinky videos..
http://www.videosift.com/video/Monica-Naranjo-Sobrevivire-2000
http://www.videosift.com/video/Lovage-Book-of-the-Month-1
..cheers:)

Other commercial:
http://www.videosift.com/video/Freaky-kinky-blood-transfusion-to-pedal-for-guitargasm

She's a very kinky girl.
The kind you don't take home to mother.

Kinky.

Thanks! It has been sifted..now there's even more kinkiness on the sift! I'll try to keep an eye on kinky stuff..
ciaociao,
Eklek

In reply to this comment by kronosposeidon:
*promote

No problem. Thanks for all you've brought here.

In reply to this comment by Eklek:
Hi kp!
thanks for the promote and for the extra notification of the gold100-sifttalk-post:)

"Ya know, if a title like "Freaky kinky blood transfusion to pedal for guitargasm" can't sell a video, then I don't belong in this plane of existence."

Indeed:) who doesn't want to see that?

In reply to this comment by kronosposeidon:
*promote

Hi kp!
thanks for the promote and for the extra notification of the gold100-sifttalk-post:)

"Ya know, if a title like "Freaky kinky blood transfusion to pedal for guitargasm" can't sell a video, then I don't belong in this plane of existence."

Indeed:) who doesn't want to see that?

In reply to this comment by kronosposeidon:
*promote

Ya know, if a title like "Freaky kinky blood transfusion to pedal for guitargasm" can't sell a video, then I don't belong in this plane of existence.

I can't help but upvote when I hear "kinky burger sex". Thank god, I thought me and White Goodman were the only ones... what?

Public bestiality, I didn't think Louisiana was that kinky.

"And if the feet are this good the ass is sure to impress...and like most ass I have served to me, sprinkled ever so slightly with sesame seeds"

Kinky!

>> ^schmawy:
> Nah, I want to play a game where if I get my re-entry angle wrong my vessel burns up.

>> ^dannym3141:
> That sounds like some sort of kinky metaphor, schmawy.

yeah. i think he's saying he has herpes.


>> ^Abducted:
> What's up with the ringed planet tilting with the screen?

just the perspective changing, due to a 'fisheye' point of view.

in 35mm film cameras, anything shorter than 50mm is a wideangle lens.
but below 20mm, a lens begins to severely distort the center, and is called a fisheye lens.
at about 10mm focal length, the distortion looks like this.