The last comment about 'be a nice guy' is interesting.

I was listening to Joe Rogan Experience, and they mentioned something about how the genesis of the 'woman hater' is actually the forever-friend-zoned-nice-guy who gets so fed up with being 'taken for granted'/'shot down' that his niceness turns into hatred

It made sense to me. Essentially, the woman hater is what becomes of a boring nice guy who lacked the patience/endurance to wait for women his age to make their way through all the exciting unreliable men before being satiated (or just getting too old to fetch the interesting men's attention) and finally settling for the nice guy that was boringly always available.



And I get it. It plays into the human natural value system, where things that are scarce are more valuable.

The ahole is fleeting. You can't always have him, and if you do you can't hold him, so he has an element of scarcity, which creates value.

The nice guy will reliably stick around if you go with him, so he is less scarce, so he is less valuable. The lower value in turn makes him more likely to be single and always available, further reducing his scarcity, and further devaluing him, and further increasing his chances of being single. A feedback loop.

I suppose that there is also a 3rd path - the element of nice guys that just stop giving a crap before turning into haters, which makes them more scarce, which actually finally gets them attention, and they stop being single.

(And a 4th path - nice guy finds 'a girl who wants a nice guy from the start'. In my observation this isn't the typical case.)



Cases like this (forever alone nice guy, not specifically Mr Van Driver) are when I think 'arrangement' web sites create a good solution. The guys get to not be lonely anymore, and the women gets taken care of. Kind of plays into the nice guy natural instinct, too.

Amusingly, 'arrangement' may be a better fit for the forever-alone nice guys than 'waiting it out'.
In both cases (waiting vs arrangement) the women are mainly after stability/support.
The older women 'nice guy' matches with by 'waiting it out' would not have picked 'nice guy' if they still had the looks to keep pulling exciting men.
So, if you're gonna be with someone because they want you for support, why not just go with a younger woman and be up front about the situation. If it doesn't work out, either party can walk away. No messy divorce. Seems like a safer and more practical option.

(Not picking on older women, just observing that : as people get older, the single scene becomes more and more 'leftovers' that are 'left over for a good reason'. The odds of finding anyone worth while diminish with time, because the highest quality individuals get retained first. Wait long enough, and you're left with over the hill jaded pragmatists who once may have had looks but now have nothing left to offer. At which point, both 'arrangement' and 'being single' are legitimately better options.)



Regarding Mr. Van Guy specifically, I'm not sure if he had a chance. He had some social anxiety that made him unable to talk to people. So he was likely not gonna get a partner naturally, and was unlikely to succeed among professional peers well enough to get the financial security necessary to be some sugar daddy.

So, yeah, dude was likely a romantic dead end. Possibly even the same mental (brain developmental?) issues that made him unable to talk to people also made him susceptible to getting the sort of crazy tilted that allowed him to run people over. The dude could have actually been fated (circumstantially) to end up in tragedy. Just speculating, wouldn't shock me.

-scheherazade

You truly are the Avatar of Payback, Bringer of Justice. Forever alone to heighten the feeling of pure vengeance that will ring through the air of every nightly encounter with your foes. Who has done thee wrong to create such a revenant of fear? Did thou awake during the age of man or long before? Be thee angel, count, or man of bat? Or perhaps Darkwing Duck?

And then palpy's proto-palpy face grins like he's George Lucas forever alone.

Forever alones take note!

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Forever alone. Stands under mistletoe, gets smacked.

Nobody is going to put a "Forever Alone" tag?

I'm not usually the meme guy but here we go!

http://www.quickmeme.com/meme/35clj3/

Yes.. imagine.
>> ^Hybrid:

Imagine walking into a bar and all the girl's dresses go completely opaque.
Forever alone.

Imagine walking into a bar and all the girl's dresses go completely opaque.

Forever alone.

I wish I was somebody's bitch.

Forever Alone....

:'(

>> ^Jinx:

Over 1000 friends is a lie? Over 50 friends is a lie too.
In my case 1 friend is a lie. FOREVER ALONE.


You have us.

Oh, right. I see now.

Over 1000 friends is a lie? Over 50 friends is a lie too.

In my case 1 friend is a lie. FOREVER ALONE.

*promote forever alone Ringo.

Somehow I knew he was behind this.>> ^GeeSussFreeK:

Thanks go out to @Zifnab for finding these and letting me post one! Forever alone is my forever joy...because I find humor in my own misery!

Thanks go out to @Zifnab for finding these and letting me post one! Forever alone is my forever joy...because I find humor in my own misery!