I'm a guy and was raped by a female cousin when I was around 9 or 10 she was in high school. I don't hate her for what she did but I wish it would of never happened because it messed me up. I have trust issues with every girl I ever dated, not only that I use to get real bad anxiety attacks to the point I was shaking in fear and sweating badly around females. I no longer get the anxiety attacks since therapy but the trust issue is still there.

This movie shows how evil we are as humans, at least that's what I got from it. I doubt the guy posting the nonsense about blaming women for rape, would feel the same way if it happened to one of his family members.

Fair points I guess its confusing for me because they've made it into a fun vid, with good production, so I can't understand why they didn't talk to someone who knew about bullying, it wouldn't have cost them much more.

A couple of interesting things about bullying - firstly, many bullies who bully because of insecurities, depression, loneliness or anxiety are actually people who have been bullied themselves at some point. This begs the question, instead of labeling all bullies as 'bad' people, should we look at ways of getting them psychological help to help break the pattern of poor behaviour they have gotten themselves into?

Also, there are bullies classified as 'pure' bullies, these are people who likely haven't been bullied themselves and also don't suffer from many of the social and emotional problems of other bullies. They can be "skilled social strategists" and bully to enhance their status. They do well academically, socially and emotionally, the main thing they seem to lack is the ability to empathize as well as others.

So really, this is just another example of the problem of stereotyping - with some bullies doing very well for themselves (which kind of debunks the point of this vid), and other bullies bullying because they themselves have been bullied, I think it's not right to just label them all as bad, they may (and probably do) need help too.

Lots of that research is available from this link:
http://www.parentingscience.com/pure-bullies.html

Anyway, just food for thought, thanks for the post!

Its perfect they have all been stashed away pretty much since i bought them back then.
I also have crazy amounts of old baseball cards and old video games(new unopened games) from when i was a game dealer. I just never have looked into how much the stuff is worth. It actually gives me anxiety now that i know. I guess one day i may look into the stuff. Probably when i need the money.

Sorry but I just see a dead man when I look at this guy. He seems on another level for sure. I can hardly watch. Yup.... 7 minute mark I have to turn it off for a while, too much anxiety.

this should be common knowledge and totally non-controversial.
but in my country people are so saturated by materialism and actually judge their own value by their ability to purchase and how much money they make.

and they wonder why they need medications to:ease their anxiety,"balance" their brain chemicals,help them sleep,help them stay awake and alert.

i deal with this on a weekly basis and it has been getting worse.
normal people spending so much energy to project this so-called "perfect' life,when the reality is they are broken and disillusioned.

it is not an easy thing to tell someone that the life they had been leading was a lie and not the reality they may have actually wanted for themselves.

that they had become slaves to a system that sought only to extract value from them,while reciprocating nothing in return.

freeing people from the invisible chains that bind them is a process that takes time.i am not always successful but it can be done and it is a worthy challenge.

while i appreciated the words in this talk i have to admit it has made me a tad sad....this should be common knowledge.

my country has terminal spiritual cancer....
im going to go watch some cartoons now,or have a good cry...

Damn you! I was all happy thinking the deer went on his way and all was well. But noooo, you had to chime in and fill me with uncertainty and worry with all your thinking. I'm now just left with anxiety and worry blotting out all nice warm fuzzy feelings i had. Thanks a lot.

@poolcleaner
i fucking love you man!

once innocence is lost,
it can never be re-aquired.
disillusion has a sister called cynicism.
a vile woman who seduces her lover "despair" like a desperate dive-bar trollop.

do not engage these corrupt entities,
for they only seek to expose your inadequacies and feed off your fears.
they amplify the conflicting messages we are all subjected to daily.
they rejoice in your anxiety and call it truth.

but thats the lie.

the scattered remnants of a splintered childhood dream,
fed by people who walked in that very dream...
and believed in its seductions...
reveals the truth....of the lie.

grieve if you must,
but allow that lie to sink into the ocean of oblivion and irrelevance,
and embrace the truth.

you are no longer bound.
you are free.

how many can say that with conviction?

*edit*sighs.meant that to be on your page..i am so fail.

I think this video says more about this guys fascination with "fame" then anything else. Hes talking about some hick that happens to be on TV. Stupid people say stupid shit ALL THE TIME. The guy hes talking about just happens to be on TV. STOP worshiping pop culture and or their fame.

I have a bit of a buzz (had a bit of a drink...anxiety issues) so i might redact this at a later time but for now this guy just annoys me.

Do you know what I did to (mostly) destroy depression? Saying whatever the fuck occurs to me. That's why NOTHING anyone will ever say to the contrary of my way of being will ever affect me. Because fuck all. And fuck you.

That makes me happy Fuck you.

Oooooooooooooohhhhh -- dildo cocksucker shit fuuuuuuuuuuuuuck

YOU.

I didn't even need to watch this lame piece of shit because post-nihilism means fuck you. But in SUCH a positive way. It's really just the sensitivity of assholes that used to depress me. And then fuck you.

Once I realized fuck you I became a better, more happy person. It's like reaching enlightenment except it's fuck you. No more anxiety. No more depression. Just fuck you.

- An excerpt from the Zen of Nihilism

I have to admit, my brain can turn to pudding with enough social anxiety. But I really hope it's never been that bad.

Then again he is deliberately on television wearing an ankle watch, so self-consciousness might not be the problem there.

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@Lann
i thought about that after i wrote the comment.
i left it as is so at least eric and lucky would know i was a fan.

another side benefit,which is one i was alluding to,is you calling me out and pointing to how my suggestions may have no practical application when dealing with anxiety.

which lets them both know they aint alone.

that make sense?
seems i may have to join eric and lucky in the hot tub.so many of my comments lately have been totally misinterpreted.

has me second guessing myself.

@enoch The whole "you have to stop" makes me think you don't really get the feeling that @eric3579 @lucky760 and other people who relate to this video have. It's similar to telling someone with an anxiety to just stop worrying. Doesn't really do anything.

I know you can just flow though words like whatever but for me (and I'm sure many other people) commenting can become draining. Also, some do take great care in their comments because they want their point to come across. That is another reason why grammar has become more and more important to me. Not looking for perfection but I do want people to understand me.

Please don't take this as a criticism of your commenting style. It's fine. Not all of us are like you though.