And now it's just me...
After a long illness (cancer) my father passed away this past Friday. As with most deaths from cancer it's a blessing in the end as the pain was horrible for him. He was as flawed and human as any man and I loved him for it.
In the above photo I'm the little fellow in the front with the white t-shirt. My brother, Joel died nearly 22 years ago, my mother passed 8 years ago (also from cancer) so that leaves me with an immediate family of me and my son.
If you have someone you love; a parent, a sibling, spouse, a great friend don't forget to give them a kiss or hug and let them know just how you feel. My dad and I did it on a regular basis and it made it much easier to say goodbye.
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My deepest condolences.
Have a good cry and come back for air.
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That's a great picture. I remember a quote from JFK Jr when Jackie died - he said that you don't truly feel like you're an adult until both of your parents have passed. Take care.
So sorry to hear it my friend, although when its a relief for the person it can still soften the edge, but not the hole left by their departure..
The last paragraph is great advice, too..
Sorry to hear such sad news. It's good to know you were able to say goodbye.
Very sorry to hear that. Nothing puts into perspective how petty and meaningless everything else is like the loss of someone dear to you.
Can't they find a cure for this fucking disease already?
*hug*
Very sorry to hear this, youdie. I wish you the best in these times. I know this can be difficult, and this is probably my biggest fear in life. I think you have a great perspective on the whole thing.
Also, great picture. Where and when was that taken?
I am very sorry to hear that!
My parents are both still alive, but being a young dad myself these things bring a tear to my eye.
My thoughts are with you and thank you for sharing!
maatc
So sorry to hear about your loss.
>> ^blankfist:
Also, great picture. Where and when was that taken?
Good old Polaroid camera. The film came with a seperate adheasive backing you would apply to the the photos to make it stiff and not curl up... (that's what she said!)
It was taken in 1969 in Miami, Florida in front of our house. I was 5 years old.
I'm back in L.A. as I type this. I want to thank everyone for their kind words, thoughts, *hugs and support.
Sorry to hear about your loss. My deepest condolences.
So sorry Joe. I lost my dad 4 years ago Thanksgiving.... It makes the holidays bittersweet doesn't it. As painful as it can be, the wonderful part of it all is everything you've loved about them all is a part of you... and now you have the privilege to share it all with your son.
I hope tomorrow you have a beautiful Christmas him.
I want to say something a bit more significant but I usually screw those up so I will just offer my deepest condolences.
hey. sorry about that, joe.
catching up with me too. hadn't mentioned it here until now, but my dad was diagnosed with cancer, start of this year. he had the usual treatments, then surgery a few months ago. judging by your photo, you had about a seven year headstart on me. don't think my dad's got that long.
either we all get to live forever, or we get to have children.
no life form could be permitted to do both.
fair trade. right, joe?
hoping you and your son have a great christmas together, and a very happy new year.
- owen
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^I hate to derail a somber thread, but why can't we have children and live forever too? (Assuming a close to infinite amount of resources in the universe - not just the earth)
^ because, just as on the planetary scale?
we don't have the right to all those resources, on the cosmological scale.
we're not the only ones in this universe.
just the only ones we know of so far, which means almost nothing.
and would mean even less to an immortal.
sorry if i inspired a derailment, joe.
and season's greetings from europa, dag.
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sorry if i inspired a derailment, joe.
Derailment and distractions are welcome, thanks for sharing your story as well.
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