I'm not asking about the phrase "in the closet." We agree on that.

Although I would not use the word "disparaging" -- it is more deeply sad that someone feels the need to hide.

What do YOU mean by disparaging? I just realized maybe we do look at that phrase differently.

It is disparaging of our society that someone feels the need to be in the closet. It is insulting to say to someone's face "hey, you are in the closet" when they have put themselves there.

Do you read Savage Love or Dan Savage's blog? I love that guy. Potty mouth and brilliant mind -- a great combination.

I shall continue my informal survey just because I am dang curious!

Hear the whole show here:

http://www.thestranger.com/SavageLovePodcast/archives/2012/06/19/savage-love-episode-296/

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Wish I could. I was a regular reader in hard copy and have no idea which issues he said it in. If you're interested in digging, It'd be more easily found at http://www.spreadingsantorum.com than at the Savage Love site.>> ^bamdrew:

I stand corrected! (though a citation would be nice)

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Dan Savage is a sex educator, writer and advice columnist. He is a vocal gay rights and adoption advocate.

His column is called "savage love" and he writes for the Stranger, a gay magazine out of Seattle

Good stuff. I've been reading Dan's "Savage Love" columns on-and-off for years. Great to see him doing stuff like this too.