In reply to this comment by CalamityKate:
"Sorry, but wtf? They feel they can't afford to be vulnerable, themselves, real? Are you saying that their need to remain attractive forces them to act in a certain way? That's just vanity." [quoting dannym3141]

in my experience, the need to remain SAFE (sometimes emotionally, sometimes physically) forces me to act a certain way at times, closing off my natural openness in meeting people for one thing. gaining weight or losing weight at different times to try to be invisible, body modifications that put people off, not taking care of my appearance at all -- those are some of the options i've exercised to avoid "flattering" attention based solely on my looks. i'm NOT saying i've ever been one of the uber-hot, btw. but i can empathize with them based on my own experiences.

sorry if that was TMI, but that's a lot of what i like at VS: real thought-and-discussion-provoking videos, not *just* cute kittens, though that's great too.

Just read this, it's months old

EVERYONE needs to protect themselves and be careful to be safe. That you think you have more to lose, or more at risk, just reinforces your vanity.

If you want to come back and say "i have a greater risk of being raped than this fat girl" then i'll say sure - but you also have a lower risk of being attacked, a higher chance of being defended if you're attacked, etc. etc.

And if you say "i have a higher risk of being raped than you (you're a girl, i'm a boy, no that isn't a chat-up line!)" Then i'll say fine, true, but you also have less chance of being attacked in pretty much any situation which can lead to an attack. That's huge.

I'm not calling you vain, i don't know you, and you could be speaking "on behalf" of some imaginary hottie. But if a hot person says to me that they are at greater risk of being safe, that is indicative of them being vain and THINKING they have more to lose. "If you get punched in the face you're good to go, but me? Well that's a big loss baby!"

I'm only sending this because you enjoy sift discussion, it's old and past and i'm just sadly bringing it back up.

grats on the star, kate!

NP. Be sure to mention it in my Guild video submission so others know too.


In reply to this comment by CalamityKate:
lol thanks, will do! i've got to get my bronze star SOMEtime!

In reply to this comment by ant:
Sure and thanks! You should submit that Christmas one!

In reply to this comment by CalamityKate:
ant, you wanted to know when new "watch the guild" episodes were posted... it's not exactly a new episode, but they just posted "a guild christmas carol."

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q21iitT0VL4

i've got them in my bloglines now so i'll be sure to catch new episodes and let you know; should i just post links in the comments of the original video? thanks for posting this, i really like it!

Sure and thanks! You should submit that Christmas one!

In reply to this comment by CalamityKate:
ant, you wanted to know when new "watch the guild" episodes were posted... it's not exactly a new episode, but they just posted "a guild christmas carol."

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q21iitT0VL4

i've got them in my bloglines now so i'll be sure to catch new episodes and let you know; should i just post links in the comments of the original video? thanks for posting this, i really like it!

Thanks, kate!

In reply to this comment by CalamityKate:
psst, you forgot a little sumpin' in the title... cool video though and i like his fancy baggy pants!

How about a vote then if it made your night?

In reply to this comment by CalamityKate:
you MUST give this video a go 'til 1:30 at least; made my night! :-) what is this anyway, some sort of small daytime wandering rave? germany is strange.

It was more like trying to avoid than seek!
Glad to meet ya then.

lol, no... i'm not the one you seek. :-)