That's insane, acoustic monitors? what the hell. I've only complained about another resident once and it was because they played their music from 11pm to 3am loud enough that I could hear it clearly almost every night. I think there are a lot of people that aren't used to apartment life, they're either completely oblivious that other people live around them or they're far too sensitive and selfish to even tolerate reasonable amounts of noise by neighbors.

I have no idea I was pretty shocked they said that and then that it took 3 people to do so. That is so anal retentive. Back in Montreal people at least come talk to you.

Ask your landlord to consider kicking her out.

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Just moved to an apartment building after living in a house for several years. It takes some getting used to. Sorry to hear about your problems. She's probably new to apartment living and doesn't understand how it works.

I often wish I could peek into my upstairs neighbors room just to see what the hell is making those strange sounds. It's probably something totally understandable, but it sounds like somebody's dragging around a ball and chain.

To me, apartment etiquette allows for a little loud music once in a while, as long as it's not in the wee hours and as long as it doesn't drone on for hours.

Everybody's gotta get a little crazy once in a while.

I live in semi-detached housing, and my next-door neighbour is really into home improvements. This morning I woke to the joyous sounds of a pneumatic drill being used to dig up concrete in his back garden. I responded in kind by playing Queen's Platinum Collection with the volume turned to about half-way. If my house is going to shake due to a disturbance then I'd rather it was my subwoofer doing the work and not some builders!

Know what you're saying about people causing mayhem just because they won't talk to us directly. Asking other people to confront things on our behalf should be a last resort, why should someone else do something for me if I've not even bothered to try sort it out myself first? Like you say, a quick discussion could have led to an easy compromise to keep everyone happy.

I could easily start on a rant about the state of modern society and how the community element has been eroded with people becoming more content to hide in their own little family bubble, and sometimes not even family beyond partner and children. People adopting the opinion that events are nothing to do with them, walking right on by other people's misfortunes without a second thought given to offering some assistance. Some things never change and maybe what I observe today is what has been happening all along, maybe so but I really wish people would be more inclusive, not reclusive.

Late to this... but aren't you kinda doing the same thing by ranting here rather than going and talking to HER?

Really, it's the same thing. You think she should have come over to talk to you about it (true enough), but you aren't going over to talk to her about it either.

Pot, kettle... at least a dark gray.

if your landlord is a asshole. just move. please just move.