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>> ^Unsung_Hero:

Road trip with his dog = No eating, drinking, changing CD's, picking nose, or crotch adjusting.


Yeah I love my dogs, but I would try sticking him in the backseat or somewhere else to try to get him comfortable. You really DO NOT want to reinforce that behavior, good for a few videos and trips though.

Both my dogs on LONG road trips I stick in the flat bed of the back of the SUV, with the back seats down too. Usually there is a bunch of camping gear and various other stuff back there off to on side and they get the other, but they really like walking around on a flat area with some blankets below them for cushion and the Lhaso Apso needs a stuffed animal to be happy (he's like a 4 year old kid--I must admit it's a bit like this behavior, but it doesn't bug anybody and he seems to feel far more safe with his plush buddy...it's cute). The Terrier could give a rats ass about what is happening in the world, but he just wanders around to the various windows watching, he LOVES looking out the back window. Eventually the Terrier goes to sleep and that lets the Lhaso relax and he snuggles up against the Terrier and they go to sleep cuddled up, should throw a pick up.

Anyway, I really just wanted to talk about my dogs on car trips, but long story short: don't coddle them too much. You got to choose your moments. Hell watching the dog whisperer taught me a lot about dog psychology. It also shows HOW absolutely wrong "dog experts" are ALWAYS wrong about them--like putting down dogs that have been rescued from bad homes because they "puppy-guard" their food and are INTENSELY aggressive about it, they put these animals down. The Dog Whisperer EASILY modifies their psychology and STOPS it.

This guy should watch a few shows. Luckily my parents had parents that had some farm backgrounds, so animals were a must and how to handle them. So I've always been able to train my dogs and get them to do what I want. My friends can be oblivious, but really a show like the Dog Whisperer is perfect for people that have a dog and WANT to teach them to do other things or things they do differently.

I love dogs though, all types. Mans best friend, bar none. Smart enough to be useful (and some even save your damned LIFE) and their psychology allows them to be incredibly affectionate and wonderful, but YOU as their master MUST BE as well!

/I've said too much!

Got a man, call him my boyfriend
Think Im falling in love
Only man that gives me things
That I am worthy of

Hugs me and holds me, kisses my softly
Calls me back right away
Communicates his feelings to me
And cares what I have to say

He says: Baby I love you, baby I need you
Never gonna let you go
Writes me love notes, takes me shopping
And to Broadway shows

Talk to him like he is a girlfriend
Slumber party every night
Ive never been so happy before
Hes almost Mr. Right

But I think hes hot and I think hes sweet
And I think hes gay and I think hes neat
Okay okay said my boyfriends gay
But what does it matter anyway
He hasnt come out of the closet yet
Til then Ill take all I can get

He doesnt think I know but I know
I know Ive always known
He doesnt think it shows but it shows
For sure its always shown
You might think its a little sad
But hes the best lover that Ive ever had

At night when were lying in bed hes not hard
Its okay cause he gives me head
Like my mum always said it takes more
Than a pound to be good in bed
You dont know the meaning of rock your world
Til youve been with a guy who thinks like girl

He lies and says that hes on meds
Thats why hes never stiff
When I ask if hes not into me
He always says As if!

But the way he makes up for his shortcomings
Just could not be finer
Cause my new best friend is his tongue
And his is my vagina

He reappears from under the covers
Lookin like hes been to war
Hes drenched in sweat he catches his breathe
Then he heads back down for more

Afterwards hes never tired
He just wants to talk
And cuddle me until I sleep
Then he takes his dog for a walk

Someday hell come out and Ill be happy for him when he does
But I know Ill be sad and I'll be thinking of what was
Someday this fairy tale will come to an end
Cause his fairy tail will find a like minded friend

He doesnt think I know but I know
I know Ive always known
He doesnt think it shows but it shows
For sure its always shown
You dont need no penetration
When you got a good dose of overcompensation

At night when were lying in bed hes not hard
Its okay cause he gives me head
Like my mum always said it takes more
Than a pound to be good in bed
You dont know the meaning of slot machine
Til youve been with a king who thinks like a queen

I know it's not forever but that's okay
Cause I'm his girlfriend, and he's my gay!

I read some of the link this sift talk post is about, not really understanding the jargon and the types of jobs. I probably shouldn't be commenting, but what the heck.

What I picked up is a style difference between programmer men and writer women -- if I understood her correctly. The "hostile environment" she references appears to be impatience on the part of the mostly male programmers who just want to talk in their own language, at their own speed, in their own style.

My observation is that men can be pretty harsh with each other, especially in this anonymous environment. Really quick to insult and put down (in general, there are always exceptions.)

Women are much more circumspect in their language patterns. Women can be just as "mean," please don't misunderstand me, it just manifests differently. The directness of male speech is just not something we women are taught or is encouraged by our culture. Women with lots of brothers do well, I suspect.

"You Just Don't Understand" is a great book about the differences in how men and women communicate.

How much is nature and how much is nurture? I don't know.

Where I sit at work, I can see out my window to the preschool across the street. I see the teachers leading these 3-4 years old in a line, each holding the hand of the kid in front. For the most part -- there are always exceptions -- I see the boys pushing on each other and fighting. The little girls walk "nicely."

I shared my observations with a teacher one day and she concurred. The boys come out and hit. But then she told me something I couldn't see -- the girls "attack" each other with whispers behind their hands. They got just as mad, they just went about it differently.

That is what I see in this woman's observation of the "hostile" environment. She sees all the pushing and shoving, and she draws back.

I could go on about the implications of on-line versus in office, female vs male managerial styles, the civilizing influence of face to face communciation, blah blah. But I won't. Plus I could be all wrong.

Hard to say what entirely happened here, seeing as how you only get the video mid yelling. For all we know the cop could've just wanted to talk to her about jay walking across the street. If she had played her cards right and been reasonable, it would of been just a verbal warning. However, on the flip side, he crossed the line by punching her. All in all, imo it just seems like a group of jackasses trying to outtrump each other.

From the FAQ
"What can't I say in a comment?

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What qualifies as a 'regular occurrence?' 3 posts on the same sift talk?

Or is this youtube?

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This is what I'm talking about, I dont understand why you're getting so angry. You're the one throwning insults around, gay bashing, and giving me a piece of your mind. I just want to talk, really.
>> ^burdturgler

im going to tell you just one of my many many cop stories.


so, theres a victims assistance cop that comes into my job peridiocally for rape and domestic violence victims. he wanted to date little ole me for some odd reason. i am a snob and would never ever date a cop, but i was horribly curious and had lots of questions. so i told him i would go and he could call it a date if he felt like it, but i was going to call it an interview.... im terribly uninterested in any sort of romantic entanglement with a fucking pig. i flat out told him i didnt date outside my species. in his arrogance he thought this was charming.

so bea gets a babysitter, and gets all cuted up.. cop takes her to a baseball game. because beas LOVE baseball games.

then out for drinks the interview is conducted. i decide just because he is a victims assistance cop doesnt make him any less of an asshole and that he is desensitized (by necessity of course) to extremely horrible things.
my heart hurts for humanity.

he tries to date me again... i tell him im sooo not interested.
...oh but im so cool so he just wants to go have some beers and hear stories of my fascinating adorable life.

so whatever, i am fascinating and adorable and i do like to talk about me. so off we go again. all of that was LIES he just wants to talk about himself somemore (clearly we are incompatible!) and try to get me to go home with him so he can tell all his buddies that he got the feminist dyke hippie chick in CT to let her guard down and fuck his brains out.

the night progresses and its more and more apparent that my vagina makes me stupid and less than him. and that im like some sort of goal. i feel as if he made a bet about where this would go and hes trying hard to win. i also realize hes a fucking idiot.

he seems to have absolutely no clue why any woman wouldnt want to fuck him right then and there. i find this is a sign that he most likely is terrible in bed. so im ready to go, he tries to stick his hand up my shirt.
i say "um fuck no dude" so he pins me to a wall forcefully and squeezes the shit out my tits and one hand is heading south for my lady part. i grab his hand and squeeze, he leans on my tighter and there it is... big mean forceful hand on my puss. i push him off of me with all my strength and wish i had a fucking shank on me.

FUCK NO DUDE.
im about to punch him in the face but remember hes a cop and i would probably go to jail. so i spit on him instead and storm the fuck out of there.

so.... the victims assistance cop is a date rapist. hooray the irony.

oh and a few months later he calls me up for a booty call. wtf?!!??


edit: also, all the cops and paramedics i have ever known regularly drink and drive. hizzah!

I just want to talk, it has nothing to do with mating..

>> ^Obsidianfire:
Isn't this what channels are for?

In a way, yes, my proposal is an expansion of the channel idea.


Pqueued videos are actually nice because they encourage the user to participate more in the sift. If they do, more people see their pqueue videos.
I'd disagree on that. This may be because I don't have the same perspective on pqueues as you do, but to me a pqueue is a personal repository of videos that didn't make the cut, and more of interest for the person whose pqueue it is than for the wider population (so to speak). The only times I look at other peoples pqueue is when looking for dupes and skimming through someones (forgot whose, sorry) "Best of Personal Queues" playlist. For me there is a certain incentive lacking for going though other peoples (unsorted, unordered) pqueues.


Sure, it's hard to get that first 9 votes, but if you make friends here, do a little work on your own part, and submit a quality video, then you have a much better chance then hiding in the corner and hoping your video sees the light of day.
Hmm, let me rephrase my intention: it isn't so much getting stars or diamonds or p0intz0rz, as much as sharing videos with a certain (admitedly subjective) quality with others .

Let me give a concrete example: I like certain genres of electronic music. I know from past experience that usually 2 or 3 people will like my posts with those videos too. To them it's quality. But those videos will almost certainly never make the cut. So to the rest of the audience it isn't quality (and to quite a few it may even be "crap"). And then the videos disappear into my pqueue, only to reemerge if someone stumbles upon the correct search phrases.
So what will a newbie to the site do, to find those videos? Chances are, s/he will start searching for concrete band names, missing out on others, quite a few of which s/he may actually like. And there we have the youtube situation again.



I think if we refine the Channels themselves, we could achieve this.
Firstly, make channels a sub-community. Basically what I'm suggesting is to privatize channels more. Say you could join a channel, it'd have it's own sift talk where only people who have joined that channel can read it. Then you still have general sift talk.
Secondly, the channel would show up on the user's profile, stating they're a member of this channel. This would make it easier for the user to find things more to their taste. The unsifted queue and the published queue would remain the same, but you could just click on the channel and it would be a second home from VS itself.

Your suggestion does fit better to the current videosift philosophy, but I'd personally wouldn't restrict read access to any part of videosift that isn't explicitly declared private. That would ruin the community pretty fast.

Futhermore, if I'm understanding you correctly, you're still keeping the channels more or less as a centrally controlled entity, and keeping everything at a global level. My suggestion aims at decentralization and localization to keep the amount of sifts down.

LASTLY I do have a request! A VS chat website. Where we can all chat in real time. There have been many times where I just want to talk to someone else and not spam their profile page with comments. Maybe a private message system atleast?

I second that. Or maybe some web-to-irc gateway applet. Some sort of chat would be nice.

Isn't this what channels are for? I actually like how we have it now. I used to complain, but I've come to respect it. Pqueued videos are actually nice because they encourage the user to participate more in the sift. If they do, more people see their pqueue videos.

Sure, it's hard to get that first 9 votes, but if you make friends here, do a little work on your own part, and submit a quality video, then you have a much better chance then hiding in the corner and hoping your video sees the light of day.

I do understand your idea. I like where you are going. I'm not saying this is a bad idea, not at all. I think if we refine the Channels themselves, we could achieve this.

Firstly, make channels a sub-community. Basically what I'm suggesting is to privatize channels more. Say you could join a channel, it'd have it's own sift talk where only people who have joined that channel can read it. Then you still have general sift talk.

Secondly, the channel would show up on the user's profile, stating they're a member of this channel. This would make it easier for the user to find things more to their taste. The unsifted queue and the published queue would remain the same, but you could just click on the channel and it would be a second home from VS itself.

Basically what would be easier would be to just make changes to our channel system instead of starting a brand new one.

LASTLY I do have a request! A VS chat website. Where we can all chat in real time. There have been many times where I just want to talk to someone else and not spam their profile page with comments. Maybe a private message system atleast?

Second life is not a game. Games are fun. Games have a point. Second life is a 3d chat room that you pay for. From what I've seen Second life seems to be populated with lonely business/working people who are too lazy or stupid to figure out anything else to do on a computer and second life makes them feel smart because they are virtual-chatting on the interwebs. Frankly if your just wanting to talk to random people on the internet irc is much better than second life in my opinion and its free.