bmacs27 says... It refers to the attitude of the speaker. If the speaker means to praise the subject along any dimension it is favorable attention. If instead the speaker intends cruelty toward the subject it would be decidedly unfavorable attention. Is this not an obvious difference to all of you? I don't think this is a gendered issue at all. I find it cruel to equate unwanted (if you prefer) sexual attention with the complete debasement accompanying internet abuse. eric3579 said: Why call it unwanted FAVORABLE attention if women find it demeaning. How is anything demeaning favorable? It seems to me being verbally demeaned could be or is a form of verbal abuse.